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#SatSpanks Julian get's punished ~ Saving Lady J

1/18/2015

Wow!It has been forever I think. I miss participating in my Sat Spanks with my lovely spanko friends. So this book is a long time in the making. I wrote it and it was finished...lol. Ok so I thought; then I added to it and now it is doubled in size. I have sent it off to bets, my worry is adding parts after the fact that there will be holes.

I am a writer that doesn't plot. I write in order and the story is like a movie in my head, so adding to it after is a little tricky for me. However, Fantasy Encounter with a Dom worked out similar to this and was a hit. So I am hoping that this will be well received.

Not only for all those reasons, but also because it will be an erotic thriller. There is a non-con part in this book and I am going to submit to Dark Hollow Press just to see what they think. If not, off to the indie world it goes.

The first book is Saving Lady J, and will be a part of the Butterfly Series where there will be 2 books. Each will be a complete story. And if you know me or not, all of my books contain Happily for now or ever afters...I can't help that.

Saving Lady J ~ The Butterfly Series: Part 1

Jamie is a woman confused about who she is sexually; her submissive side is constantly at war with her mouth. A man named Julian enters her life in a non-conventional way and he becomes her slave. He too is confused about his identity and is hiding a secret about his past.

Two dominants enter and soon her world becomes unraveled. Jamie attempts to help Julian fight his battles, unwilling to face that she is putting herself in harms way.

Julian has just moved in and has much to learn...

He lurched away with a twinkle in his eyes, as if it was a game. “Or what?” He laughed.

I lifted my chin and my bottom lip pulled into my mouth as I tried to contain my devious smirk. “You’re testing me after two days?”

“I’m horny as fuck.”

Swat! The sound of the crop whizzing through the air was almost as loud as it was on his left thigh.

“Fuck!”

Swat!

“Swear again,” I spoke quickly.

I wonder if Julian will behave or misbehave on purpose. ;)

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Online Dating Part II ~ Setting up Profiles - what we've found #onlinedating

1/5/2015

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How has dating become so different? It is a strange dance of finding your way through the crazies.

This is a series of blog posts. It is a bit of an introduction to things I have learned and found out about dating. I hope you find this series: useful, intriguing, and funny. I am no expert and merely thought this would be a great post for the New Year.

This is merely my point of view and opinions of me and other contributors. Please note the user names have been altered slightly and no profile pictures with persons faces have been used because I wasn’t given permissions.

Contributing author MK

If you haven’t read part one “Where to start” click -- HERE

What’s in a name?

Picking out your name should be something you put thought into. It’s really about what you are trying to attract and who you are portraying yourself as.

I saw one that said shooter. Now every picture was with alcohol, so I am guessing that kind, but yeah…let’s think about our word choices.

The thugs that really are babies, smh, really? Names that have: cash, killer, skilz, dbillz, etc.

Guys that use their full name and birth date. Ex: GregoryPeck7473

Ok. So I know your name is Gregory Peck & you were born on July 4th in 73 (easily verified since your age is displayed) Am I the only one that doesn't trust the internet? Seriously, why not just post your social and take a picture of your bank statements while you're at it.

Or the guy with sexual innuendoes: magicboner, hardnlong, (perhaps not thick #idontknow *laughs*), Jackoff6969, Kittylicker, snatchxx… Usually a pic of the stereotypical DB, shirtless or a nerd...

Vanilla ice, dressed in a pinstripe suit with the -"I'm trying to look tough look" on your face and tag line “Shark Tank”. Oh wow. You pulled out all the stops here...

The men who are “still in college”. The name- big snooze. Is that a synopsis to what I get to look forward to. Is it a warning label. Were you drunk when you made this name? Or pick that picture. Seriously- you look like you are high on bath salts or part of the walking dead. And your- "not too sure." I'm not either after seeing this...

AmIreally40
Lunatic
GingerAlien
Takeoutthetrash
Datingsux

The #myusernameissolongitlookslikeahadtagandmakesnosense name. You lost me at duck...

Picking a user name that makes you sound horrible. Umm. I see you're tatted. But why label yourself a monkey. Gets me to thinking if you are hairy or make ape noises during sex... Tattoomnky

Muttmunkey (kinda goes with above; just my mind goes somewhere it shouldn’t)

Publishing your workplace for all to see (men who stand in front of fire trucks). Hell, I'm a sucker for a man in uniform. But you just showed me and a bazillion other strangers what town you work for... Not smart... Side note also your uniforms, don’t forget to blur your name.

Tag lines

See additional fun tags below and just think for a moment would you really want to open a profile for any of the tag lines listed? If you need to put something like “no cheaters” or “this site doesn’t work” it conveys nothing but negativity.

Bad:

Strong women scare weak men.
I was indecisive, now I am not so sure.
Heyyyyyyyy
Hiiiiii
Hello
No cheaters please.
Get me off this site.
Does this site even work?
I am giving this one more try.
This thing is brken.
Were R all the gud woman? (far away from you buddy LOL)
Not too sure
It places the lotion on its… (yeah creeper alert)
Not too shabby
Anyone good with dog ear problems?
Why am I doing this again?
Headline
No Drama please (or any variation of this)
Sometimes you only have messed up choices

"MY NAME IS GEORGE. I'M UNEMPLOYED AND LIVE WITH MY PARENTS.” (The person is joking but still it’s dumb because this is mostly what the viewer will see)

“If someone compliments you, at least Thank them" (ps his name is I_smooth obviously not so much…lol)

Good:

Let’s leave each other wanting more
Looking for my laid back country girl
Living in the moment
Outdoorsy guy looking
Looking for a partner in crime
Let’s have some fun in the sun
Ready set let’s roll (makes me think of a song)
Live, laugh, enjoy…it’s that simple
Just looking (this is actually honesty)
Bring balance to my life
Love story inside, let’s see how it ends

Picture funnies

Pictures. We all have a type and we judge a book by their cover, like books! Do you like blondes, or facial hair, unconsciously some people are attracted to someone with similar features. There is a study about this, as I mentioned in my prior post.

So on to the funny and worst pictures. And honestly this is from our perspective, but really ladies this goes for you too. I have heard a lot that women have similar dumb pictures. Get a thread of common sense. There are so many more, but this is just the tip of the iceberg.

The angry, constipated or prison look. Smile!

And to add to that, there was a man in a prison. His profile said: people don’t judge me badly because I am in a prison…um you are in PRISON! Idiot! No just nooo.

Also, many in that prison orange. No, please think about the color you are wearing.

The man taking a picture in the rearview, during a snowstorm, while driving. Yes, we want you—please endanger our lives too!

Sideways man. There is a thing called rotate…yeah the little arrow thingy-that.

A shoe. No really I have seen just a shoe and trust me it was small if it was meant to mean they were, um, well hung, because the shoe… Well you can see for yourself, size 7?

Yum! I love moldy floors!!

Bedroom eyes. Ok, mostly you look like you are squinting or constipated or…well, let’s not get too gross here. Most of you can’t pull that off. Let’s leave it at that.

A head cut off and pasted on a baby, in peanut butter, or on a muscled man…just no.

A man in a penguin suit, captain America or other non-business suits. Sometimes I think these memories are great to the person posting, but we weren’t there. Remember that.

The back of your head.

Every picture is blurry.

Pictures with stupid / gross things like mold and toilet brushes or trash in the background…be mindful!

The underneath shot. I don’t need to see your double chin or nose hairs.

Bathroom selfie that looks so sterile or psycho. The lighting is terrible in there.

The cat picture!This is clearly a loon if you read their profile. I already reported them before.

Do’s and Don’ts
in written profile

Dont’s

#1 Do not put: Ask or ask me. The point of the site is to be able to look at a person that is potential and say hmm, we have “this” in common. Ok, now I have something to talk about.

Ask? Ask what? Ask why you are such an arrogant douche bag? Get off your lazy ass and write a couple sentences.

Can you speak English? Are you literate. These are pluses for me. If you cannot string a sentence or write like this: I lke 2 due evrytin n sht hnd & never use wds or punctuation or captals or speelchek. Ur cute. No. Write like an adult.

#2 The first thing you say is you don’t want drama or baggage. Life is full of drama. We all have these things; if you don’t, you are lying or were just born, because even my 6 year old is a drama queen.

#3 Your post is all negative things to say about others or your experience on the site so far. Keep your page upbeat. No one wants to be dragged into your pit of despair (10 points if you can name that movie!).

#4 Everything in your profile is a joke. Like life is a joke. Are you really going to take me serious? A relationship serious?

#5 You post that you need help raising your children. Yes, I have seen that.

#6 You say: I will fill it out later, but you have been on this site forever with the same pictures. Pretty sure you have gotten older.

#7 You have your age listed as one thing and then tell us in your profile you are another. Strike one!

#8 You have a blank profile. No age, height, nothing. I am not messaging or responding to you. If you have so little time to put into this then you will have just as much time to put into me.

Do

#1 Ask a friend to help you edit your page, but make sure it is you. If you are male have a female friend and vice versa if you can or want. Just an idea.

#2 Sometimes someone will tell you that another picture of you is better. Hey try it out! Anytime you update your profile you are going to be noticed on the site.

#3 Be interesting. We are all looking for attractive, but smart, funny, charismatic, etc…these are all part of a package. Your package.

#4 Honest. Be yourself. Don’t play a role and be what you think someone else is looking for. Why waste anyone’s time, especially yours. Even causal dating and sex, trust me it is better when you have a connection with someone you have actual things in common with.

In short:

Put meaningful / good pictures on your profile.

Ask for help from friends.

Be yourself and fill out the profile at least moderately.

If you were once wondering why no one was looking at you, perhaps this helps you a little bit. No one wants someone to be what they want; they want you to be you!

Up next in the blog series: messages and using the sites to their potential…

Some Dating Site links:

OK CUPID:
www.okcupid.com/home

Plenty of FISH (POF):
http://www.pof.com/

Zoosk:
www.zoosk.com

Match.com (join for free):
www.match.com

E-harmony(5 days free):
http://www.eharmony.com/

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Online Dating Part I ~ Where to start #onlinedating

1/3/2015

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How has dating become so different? It is a strange dance of finding your way through the crazies.

This is a series of blog posts. It is a bit of an introduction to things I have learned and found out about dating. I hope you find this series: useful, intriguing, and funny. I am no expert and merely thought this would be a great post for the New Year.

This is merely my point of view and opinions of myself and other contributors.

Care Less about Wealth and Youth

Great quote!!

“As gender equality rises in any given society, men focus less on seeking mates with youth and beauty and women become less interested in rich, powerful men”

So think about this, men want a pretty face. When that fades—guess what you are older too! You get to start over looking for a pretty face, but you are not as “pretty” yourself, no offense. Also many women want or have kids, and most men have been there done that.

Women want wealth and stability. Sure, but realize this—men are at work and here are two key things to think about. First, most cheating occurs at work. Second, if they are working all the time they won’t be spending time with you. Additionally, everyone needs down time. They want guy time, you need girl time…your time with them will be limited even more once children are entered into the equation. Remember wealth, status, and things could be gone at any moment - whether a: fire, bankruptcy, divorce, robbery, etc.

The main questions you should focus on are the three D’s: drive, dreams and desires. Do you think you are on the same page? This covers everything from: work / life balance, family, financial goals, and sex.

What to expect on the sites?

I cannot say I dated much before. I am very old school. Men should treat you with respect (and vice versa, what goes around). I am a lady and deserve to be treated as such. That being said, you need to realize many people on these sites are sad pathetic creatures.

#1 THE TROLL. They Troll the sites (and multiple) sending the same old dumb message in hopes for a “bite” to their pathetic attempt. They admit they put no effort into it, nor really care about it.

#2 THE FAKE, slimy, snot-nosed, probably under aged teens or 40-year-old virgin type. They send sexting type messages and hope get some in return. Or porn / virus’ sort of irony with that one. I will also list catfish under here.

#3 THE COLLECTOR – a person who like “the fake” wants pictures or merely wants to serial date. Or wants to just chat to as many people as possible with no intention of ever meeting.

#4 TOO NICE/PUSHOVER – You’ve met these people in real life. Some are the 40-year-old virgin. They lack confidence and truly try to fit what you want, instead of what they are looking for.

#5 ANGRY GUY – this one gets their own category for me. About 25% of the people on these sites are jaded. They send angry and hateful messages to you even if you have never sent a single message to them.

#6 NORMAL / SEMI-NORMAL—this is a two-fer. I say this because some appear normal until you meet them. You can hide a lot behind a: computer, text, and phone.

Personally…

So, who am I? I was a love at first site “naive” type – married and faithful to the wrong person for far too long. That being said, I have two beautiful children, and I’m a stronger person for everything I’ve been through. Again, I know who I am.

That is the first issue I am noticing on the site. People are lost or not portraying themselves for who they are. I am honest and sure have faults, but no one needs to have that smack them in the face. But I also read profiles and can normally spot incompatibility or things I can overlook. We all have our “things”. Things that drive us nuts or were a sticking point in a prior relationship.

Something needs to be said for the people that can carry a conversation. I text in shorthand, but I get annoyed at people that cannot talk to me like a real person. And when they are half talking or clearly talking to far too many people at once - I just sign off. I think I am pretty interesting.

I know about a TV show on MTV called "Catfish". I have never seen. So many people talk about it actually happening on the sites. The people on the website try to force you right off the bat to prove you are real. It’s almost laughable if not annoying. I have found a couple fake accounts myself. A cute guy, I message them and immediately I got a porn link. I assume a fake account. (Shrugs) Whatever, I guess I have thicker skin. Being on Twitter I have had so many weirdos and whatnot. Not much gets to me. I also don’t understand the point of it, but I am noticing a trend lately where I don’t get things.

I watched a documentary awhile ago that stated mates are attracted to a person that looks similar to them. Their facial structure specifically. I found it interesting. I tried to locate the documentary; however I couldn’t find it online.

I can understand the concept on some level—to carry on strong genes. My heritage is Swedish and the genes are strong. It’s yet another unconscious natural selection type thing. Of course there are outliers to this, but we are seeking a mate that matches us in so many other ways, why not their appearance.

In Short:

Be Yourself /Know who you are

Focus on the 3 D’s, not wealth and beauty

Communicate clearly

Be positive and don’t let the bad accounts get under your skin

Next up in the blog series, setting up profiles…(you might cry you will be laughing so hard)

Links I would recommend:

http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/07/when-men-stop-seeking-beauty-and-women-care-less-about-wealth/

http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/dating-site-matches-face-mates-find-love-alike/story?id=13206411

http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/relationships/why-do-good-people-cheat/#.VKifMHtH2DM

Some Dating Site links:

OK CUPID:
www.okcupid.com/home

Plenty of FISH (POF):
http://www.pof.com/

Zoosk:
www.zoosk.com

Match.com (join for free):
www.match.com

E-harmony(5 days free):
http://www.eharmony.com/

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