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Online Dating Part III ~ Messages and using the site to its potential

3/20/2015

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So you've made it past the pictures and taglines and waded through the many profiles. The site maybe matched you up. As I mentioned in my first blog post we often times are attracted to someone with similar facial traits to our own. Not always but there is a study on it.

Messaging is where you can fail quickly. Men tend to not talk to much and women blather on. So with this in mind try to think what your potential mate might like. Not to say change who you are, but gain their attention. Like a peacock flaunt your feathers. There is a fine line between arrogance and confidence. But no matter which sex you are, the opposite normally finds this sexy.

So check out the flounders below and try to think outside the box. Be original and be yourself. Again, being who that person wants isn't scoring any points because you cannot keep up a charade for very long.
Messages

#1

Hi, Hey, Hello, Hi sexy or any variation thereof. My biggest recommendation is not to use the flirt button. Be a real person.

#2

Be thoughtful when you message. Read the profile and try to pick out something. Ask an open-ended question. What’s that? Not yes or no / or multiple choice. Better yet ask a couple of questions. Start a conversation.

#3

Don’t auto message/copy paste the same message or a generic message.

Hi. How was your day? My name is Bob. I like your profile. Message me back.

More than likely, you will be ignored.

#4

Multiple messager. You send message, after message, after message, after message, after…annoyed yet. Yeah…me too. Many don’t want to lead anyone on that they aren’t interested in. I can say however, I might miss the message once. Two times and please, get the hint.

#5

Asking for a phone number or giving us yours in the first or second message. No! I don’t walk around and just hand my number to everyone on the street or in a bar. I’ll just do the poster thing with the rip off number. :/ I’m not a lost puppy.

#6

No to all of this within the first 5 messages: Raunchy sex talk. Asking about birth control. Sending dick pics. Asking them to be in a threesome (that was my very first message on one of the sites!). Telling them you want to lick their..um. Asking them to meet at a hotel. Meeting on Kik then sending dick pictures. Skype. Wow. there is just too much to list. There is so much negativity. And people seem to be all or nothing, quite honestly, I guess it’s good to know up front.

#7

Fake accounts. My name is Mike. I really liked your profile. I am a doctor and make a lot of money. I am super busy and am looking for a princess.  Barf…sorry I had to just bring this up again.  My father always said: “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.” Remember what I said before about pictures. Put all the pieces together. The flawless pictures of: ripped abs, beach photos, etc. He’s a model and trainer, but works as a photographer by day….I have “encountered” a few of these now.

#8

The ultimate question both men and women hate. Wow, you seem so great. Why are you single?

Like there must be something wrong with you. Yes, what is wrong with me is that I know what I want. And it isn't hooking up or settling.

#9

Be positive. Talking bad about ex's or past dates, unless in a funny/ connectivity way. And think about what you are writing. You may be having a bad day, perhaps you shouldn't be on your dating site.

Example. I messaged someone asking the name of their dog...they had nothing on their profile except a couple pictures and a few interests. Their response was a single word. "Bitch". Ok, yep, blocked/deleted.


#10

The let's make a date message and then poof they disappear before the date or solidifying the date...and this is a segue into my next post!! :)


Side notes on messaging and personal safety:

This seems obvious, but I will add this part anyway. I never post pictures of my children, or anything that has my address, license plate, etc - things that give away my location. A really tech savvy person can find you, but let’s not make it easy. People ask where I live. I tell them the city I live near. I mean, do I need to say no banking, social or other financial information. Don’t open any links. This has always been an online rule of mine.

I don’t give out my phone number as a rule. I noted it in my profile in fact. Many are quick / eager to give you theirs sometimes. Great! Look them up. I can give you a site. I work in security. LOL So how do I talk to them? Normally, I chat for at least a week or so on the site. That is the point of the site. It is a safe place to speak. Then if I feel comfortable they graduate to a variable of places.

My phone number – very rare. If I have a date with them.

I don’t email. Someone gave me their horror story with email. Yeah, I am good. But as an author anyone can Google that.

Kik: is an app. You can chat/ message and send pictures. Even add friends (oops by accident) all without giving your phone number. I don’t do this often because this app never turns off. This seems to be a dick pic place..ick.

Skype: Is a feature on your computer (and phone) that allows you to basically facetime with someone, however, you need a camera on your computer. Again this is another thing to use to verify that you are a real person. Someone basically dropped me because I wouldn’t do this. Whatever! Your loss. Also, another place people do, um, gross things.

Facebook: I have never been asked. This is another thing people use to message. This is another thing that could easily invite crazies into your life. Remember you may have your things set to private, but not everyone on your friend list does.

Again, they will see pictures of your children. You need to think about it like this. You will have pics of you not at your finest hour, drinking, etc. Think, what if they know someone. Also, men are MEN. They go through your friends list and make a decision hmm is she the cutest or is someone on her friend/family list cuter. Trust me—I am not making this up. Sad but true. I had no idea!! :/ Grass is greener and fantasy world comments I mentioned on my Facebook come to mind here.

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 Site features

Fill in the portion of POF that allows you to choose single items you like.

For example:

Sports, amusement parks, movies, ice cream, sunsets… The list is extensive. It helps people find each other with similar interests. I am sure many think it limits them, but it does the opposite. I read this; if there profile is too long or many just fill this out, which is fine.

The tests/quizzes – now this is one I am unsure of. I have debated deleting, but they are true, they are me. I don’t want to fill in the sex or other ones; because I don’t want to be put in this box, but I don’t think what is listed in them hurts me. Perhaps the people who have taken them don’t like the results. They maybe need to take a good hard look at themselves. I am very self aware of who I am and my faults. I am critical, but most critical of myself. I am a Virgo after all.

The questions on OK Cupid. There are sooo many, and most are geared toward men finding out very explicit details about women sexually. And honestly the answers aren’t truly a great reflection of who you are. There is an explanation box, which I use when I can. You don’t have to answer or you can answer them hidden. This feature helps you because your results are still used to match potentials without showing them exactly the answers. I have to say I really like this question feature. I have a few things that are really important to me. And you can see people say no they don’t do drugs for example, but they get tripped up in the multiple questions. For me, I have kids so I don’t judge, but there is a huge reason that I don’t and won’t allow this near me or my kids. Or another person said yes they expect oral, but think it is gross give it. That won’t work for me.

POF also has a feature where you can be hidden or allow you to view so others don’t know that you have viewed. This feature means that the men cannot see you so you have to do all the work—searching and messaging. It limits you only I think by the men that are also hidden.

OK Cupid has less features, and I find it quite limiting in many ways. They changed the favorite feature so now you have to upgrade to see who favorites you. You can say yes or no to whether or not you would date them, which I found out the hard way counts as a view to their profile. OK Cupid has a lot of angry men. I get a lot of angry texts. I stopped using that last feature. I thought it would remove them from view, it doesn’t.

A majority of people are on both sites—however I don’t see all of them. The algorithm just doesn’t match you up the same when you use the features as I mentioned. I recommend you be on both. And both have a block feature.

I mentioned these two POF and OK Cupid because the other sites tend to cost money.
They can be free initially but after a time cost.

In Short:

  • Use the site features.

  • Practice safety / don’t use your full name or give out personal information (Stranger Danger!)

  • Fill out your profile. We are on the site so people can swiftly decide if you have a few items in common.

  •  Don’t be a douche and talk to people like human beings.

Next up first dates…



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Savannah Sins #newrelease #coverreveal @JennaFoxRox #erotic #horror

2/28/2015

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Savannah Sins is Ms. Fox's second erotic horror/thriller with Dark Hollows Press. The book will be published March 3rd!! I have used the naughty excerpt below. I hope you are prepared to be sinful this Sunday. ;)
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BOOK SYNOPSIS

Her prison became his hell.

 

The only thing standing between Beverly Price and a prison cell is her well connected attorney, Jackson McNabb.  Jackson pulls some legal strings, getting Beverly sent to his family’s plantation to work out her sentence at an isolated setting- the perfect place for sexual escapades. When Jack and Beverly act on the pent-up lust burning between them, their passion rouses an angry spirit, setting off a series of frightening paranormal events and sending Beverly fleeing the arms of her lover, leaving Jack to fight for both of their lives.

 
Where will you run when your sins come back to haunt you?


X-RATED EXCERPT

It took her higher than any drug. Deeper, harder and faster. Each thrust was more determined than the last. Beverly’s pussy was zinging with sensitivity, stretched wider than ever in so long, with a man balls deep inside her. The inferno burned higher and hotter as she tightened around him, his cock expanding with her clasping heat. Jack began a merciless onslaught, holding nothing back, breaking down the fibers of her being. Her world was on fire and her emotions were spinning. Their bodies exploded, mouths agape as they came out loud together and she reached around him, clutching his ass to grind more of his hard flesh into hers.

Want to learn more about my friend Jenna?

AUTHOR BIO

Jenna Fox is a civilized hillbilly, mother, wife and multi-published author of erotic romance residing in Eastern Tennessee. Besides juggling a busy family life, Fox reviews and critiques for other authors and crafts her own dark erotic tales. Stories always feature a mysterious alpha male with unexpected twists to shock the reader. She believes in HFN and HEA endings, although not always in a romantic or conventional way. 

Her work is born from real life experiences, an overactive imagination and a consuming caffeine addiction.  Fox is a listener of bad-ass music and a watcher of classic slasher films. In short, she’s a multi-tasker – a writer, a storyteller, able to make a boo-boo all better with just one kiss and a proud, world class expert at screwing up recipes and scaring away closet monsters.  She believes in ghosts and God and is absolutely convinced chocolate soothes the savage beast.

AUTHOR FOLLOW LINKS

Blog: http://jennafoxwrites.blogspot.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenna.fox.545402

Facebook Fan Page: https://www.facebook.com/jennafoxwrites

Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/jennafoxrox/

Twitter: @jennafoxrox  https://twitter.com/jennafoxrox 

Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/26071712-jenna-fox

Amazon Author Page: http://www.amazon.com/Jenna-Fox/e/B00DHL9N9I/

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#SatSpanks Julian get's punished ~ Saving Lady J

1/18/2015

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Wow!It has been forever I think. I miss participating in my Sat Spanks with my lovely spanko friends. So this book is a long time in the making. I wrote it and it was finished...lol. Ok so I thought;  then I added to it and now it is doubled in size. I have sent it off to bets, my worry is adding parts after the fact that there will be holes.

I am a writer that doesn't plot. I write in order and the story is like a movie in my head, so adding to it after is a little tricky for me. However, Fantasy Encounter with a Dom worked out similar to this and was a hit. So I am hoping that this will be well received.

Not only for all those reasons, but also because it will be an erotic thriller. There is a non-con part in this book and I am going to submit to Dark Hollow Press just to see what they think. If not, off to the indie world it goes.

The first book is Saving Lady J, and will be a part of the Butterfly Series where there will be 2 books. Each will be a complete story. And if you know me or not, all of my books contain Happily for now or ever afters...I can't help that.

Saving Lady J ~ The Butterfly Series: Part 1

Jamie is a woman confused about who she is sexually; her submissive side is constantly at war with her mouth. A man named Julian enters her life in a non-conventional way and he becomes her slave. He too is confused about his identity and is hiding a secret about his past.

Two dominants enter and soon her world becomes unraveled. Jamie attempts to help Julian fight his battles, unwilling to face that she is putting herself in harms way.


Julian has just moved in and has much to learn...

He lurched away with a twinkle in his eyes, as if it was a game. “Or what?” He laughed.

I lifted my chin and my bottom lip pulled into my mouth as I tried to contain my devious smirk. “You’re testing me after two days?”

“I’m horny as fuck.”

Swat! The sound of the crop whizzing through the air was almost as loud as it was on his left thigh.

“Fuck!”

Swat!

“Swear again,” I spoke quickly.

I wonder if Julian will behave or misbehave on purpose. ;)

Please check out all the fabulous authors and be sure to comment on their pages!

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Online Dating Part II ~ Setting up Profiles - what we've found #onlinedating

1/5/2015

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How has dating become so different? It is a strange dance of finding your way through the crazies.

This is a series of blog posts. It is a bit of an introduction to things I have learned and found out about dating. I hope you find this series: useful, intriguing, and funny. I am no expert and merely thought this would be a great post for the New Year.

This is merely my point of view and opinions of me and other contributors. Please note the user names have been altered slightly and no profile pictures with persons faces have been used because I wasn’t given permissions.

Contributing author MK

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If you haven’t read part one “Where to start” click -- HERE

What’s in a name?

Picking out your name should be something you put thought into. It’s really about what you are trying to attract and who you are portraying yourself as.

I saw one that said shooter. Now every picture was with alcohol, so I am guessing that kind, but yeah…let’s think about our word choices.

The thugs that really are babies, smh, really? Names that have: cash, killer, skilz, dbillz, etc.

Guys that use their full name and birth date. Ex: GregoryPeck7473

Ok. So I know your name is Gregory Peck & you were born on July 4th in 73 (easily verified since your age is displayed) Am I the only one that doesn't trust the internet? Seriously, why not just post your social and take a picture of your bank statements while you're at it.

Or the guy with sexual innuendoes: magicboner, hardnlong, (perhaps not thick #idontknow *laughs*), Jackoff6969, Kittylicker, snatchxx… Usually a pic of the stereotypical DB, shirtless or a nerd...

Vanilla ice, dressed in a pinstripe suit with the -"I'm trying to look tough look" on your face and tag line “Shark Tank”. Oh wow. You pulled out all the stops here...

The men who are “still in college”. The name- big snooze. Is that a synopsis to what I get to look forward to. Is it a warning label. Were you drunk when you made this name? Or pick that picture. Seriously- you look like you are high on bath salts or part of the walking dead.  And your- "not too sure." I'm not either after seeing this...

AmIreally40
Lunatic
GingerAlien
Takeoutthetrash
Datingsux

The #myusernameissolongitlookslikeahadtagandmakesnosense name.  You lost me at duck...

Picking a user name that makes you sound horrible. Umm. I see you're tatted. But why label yourself a monkey. Gets me to thinking if you are hairy or make ape noises during sex... Tattoomnky

Muttmunkey (kinda goes with above; just my mind goes somewhere it shouldn’t)

Publishing your workplace for all to see (men who stand in front of fire trucks). Hell, I'm a sucker for a man in uniform. But you just showed me and a bazillion other strangers what town you work for... Not smart... Side note also your uniforms, don’t forget to blur your name.
Tag lines

See additional fun tags below and just think for a moment would you really want to open a profile for any of the tag lines listed? If you need to put something like “no cheaters” or “this site doesn’t work” it conveys nothing but negativity.


  Bad:

Strong women scare weak men.
I was indecisive, now I am not so sure.
Heyyyyyyyy
Hiiiiii
Hello
No cheaters please.
Get me off this site.
Does this site even work?
I am giving this one more try.
This thing is brken.
Were R all the gud woman? (far away from you buddy LOL)
Not too sure
It places the lotion on its… (yeah creeper alert)
Not too shabby
Anyone good with dog ear problems?
Why am I doing this again?
Headline
No Drama please (or any variation of this)
Sometimes you only have messed up choices

"MY NAME IS GEORGE. I'M UNEMPLOYED AND LIVE WITH MY PARENTS.” (The person is joking but still it’s dumb because this is mostly what the viewer will see)

“If someone compliments you, at least Thank them"  (ps his name is I_smooth obviously not so much…lol)

Good:

Let’s leave each other wanting more
Looking for my laid back country girl
Living in the moment
Outdoorsy guy looking
Looking for a partner in crime
  Let’s have some fun in the sun
Ready set let’s roll (makes me think of a song)
Live, laugh, enjoy…it’s that simple
Just looking (this is actually honesty)
Bring balance to my life
Love story inside, let’s see how it ends
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Picture funnies

Pictures. We all have a type and we judge a book by their cover, like books! Do you like blondes, or facial hair, unconsciously some people are attracted to someone with similar features. There is a study about this, as I mentioned in my prior post.

So on to the funny and worst pictures. And honestly this is from our perspective, but really ladies this goes for you too. I have heard a lot that women have similar dumb pictures. Get a thread of common sense. There are so many more, but this is just the tip of the iceberg.



The angry, constipated or prison look. Smile!

And to add to that, there was a man in a prison. His profile said: people don’t judge me badly because I am in a prison…um you are in PRISON! Idiot! No just nooo.

Also, many in that prison orange. No, please think about the color you are wearing.

The man taking a picture in the rearview, during a snowstorm, while driving. Yes, we want you—please endanger our lives too!

Sideways man. There is a thing called rotate…yeah the little arrow thingy-that.

A shoe. No really I have seen just a shoe and trust me it was small if it was meant to mean they were, um, well hung, because the shoe… Well you can see for yourself, size 7?
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Yum! I love moldy floors!!
Bedroom eyes. Ok, mostly you look like you are squinting or constipated or…well, let’s not get too gross here. Most of you can’t pull that off. Let’s leave it at that.

A head cut off and pasted on a baby, in peanut butter, or on a muscled man…just no.

A man in a penguin suit, captain America or other non-business suits. Sometimes I think these memories are great to the person posting, but we weren’t there. Remember that.

The back of your head.

Every picture is blurry.

Pictures with stupid / gross things like mold and toilet brushes or trash in the background…be mindful!

The underneath shot. I don’t need to see your double chin or nose hairs.

Bathroom selfie that looks so sterile or psycho. The lighting is terrible in there.

The cat picture!This is clearly a loon if you read their profile. I already reported them before.

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Do’s and Don’ts
in written profile


Dont’s

#1 Do not put: Ask or ask me. The point of the site is to be able to look at a person that is potential and say hmm, we have “this” in common. Ok, now I have something to talk about.

Ask? Ask what? Ask why you are such an arrogant douche bag? Get off your lazy ass and write a couple sentences.

Can you speak English? Are you literate. These are pluses for me. If you cannot string a sentence or write like this: I lke 2 due evrytin n sht hnd & never use wds or punctuation or captals or speelchek. Ur cute. No. Write like an adult.

#2  The first thing you say is you don’t want drama or baggage. Life is full of drama. We all have these things; if you don’t, you are lying or were just born, because even my 6 year old is a drama queen.

#3 Your post is all negative things to say about others or your experience on the site so far. Keep your page upbeat. No one wants to be dragged into your pit of despair (10 points if you can name that movie!).

#4 Everything in your profile is a joke. Like life is a joke. Are you really going to take me serious? A relationship serious?

#5 You post that you need help raising your children. Yes, I have seen that.

#6 You say: I will fill it out later, but you have been on this site forever with the same pictures. Pretty sure you have gotten older.

#7 You have your age listed as one thing and then tell us in your profile you are another. Strike one!

#8 You have a blank profile. No age, height, nothing. I am not messaging or responding to you. If you have so little time to put into this then you will have just as much time to put into me.

Do

#1 Ask a friend to help you edit your page, but make sure it is you. If you are male have a female friend and vice versa if you can or want. Just an idea.

#2 Sometimes someone will tell you that another picture of you is better. Hey try it out! Anytime you update your profile you are going to be noticed on the site.

#3 Be interesting. We are all looking for attractive, but smart, funny, charismatic, etc…these are all part of a package. Your package.

#4 Honest. Be yourself. Don’t play a role and be what you think someone else is looking for. Why waste anyone’s time, especially yours. Even causal dating and sex, trust me it is better when you have a connection with someone you have actual things in common with.

In short:

  • Put meaningful / good pictures on your profile.
  • Ask for help from friends.
  • Be yourself and fill out the profile at least moderately.

If you were once wondering why no one was looking at you, perhaps this helps you a little bit. No one wants someone to be what they want; they want you to be you!

Up next in the blog series: messages and using the sites to their potential…


Some Dating Site links:

OK CUPID:
www.okcupid.com/home


Plenty of FISH (POF):
http://www.pof.com/


Zoosk:
www.zoosk.com


Match.com (join for free):
www.match.com


E-harmony(5 days free): 
http://www.eharmony.com/
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Online Dating Part I ~ Where to start #onlinedating

1/3/2015

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How has dating become so different? It is a strange dance of finding your way through the crazies.

This is a series of blog posts. It is a bit of an introduction to things I have learned and found out about dating. I hope you find this series: useful, intriguing, and funny. I am no expert and merely thought this would be a great post for the New Year.


This is merely my point of view and opinions of myself and other contributors.

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Care Less about Wealth and Youth

Great quote!!  

“As gender equality rises in any given society, men focus less on seeking mates with youth and beauty and women become less interested in rich, powerful men”

So think about this, men want a pretty face. When that fades—guess what you are older too! You get to start over looking for a pretty face, but you are not as “pretty” yourself, no offense.  Also many women want or have kids, and most men have been there done that.

Women want wealth and stability. Sure, but realize this—men are at work and here are two key things to think about. First, most cheating occurs at work. Second, if they are working all the time they won’t be spending time with you. Additionally, everyone needs down time. They want guy time, you need girl time…your time with them will be limited even more once children are entered into the equation. Remember wealth, status, and things could be gone at any moment - whether a: fire, bankruptcy, divorce, robbery, etc.

The main questions you should focus on are the three D’s: drive, dreams and desires. Do you think you are on the same page? This covers everything from: work / life balance, family, financial goals, and sex.

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What to expect on the sites?
I cannot say I dated much before. I am very old school. Men should treat you with respect (and vice versa, what goes around). I am a lady and deserve to be treated as such. That being said, you need to realize many people on these sites are sad pathetic creatures.

#1 THE TROLL. They Troll the sites (and multiple) sending the same old dumb message in hopes for a “bite” to their pathetic attempt. They admit they put no effort into it, nor really care about it.

#2 THE FAKE, slimy, snot-nosed, probably under aged teens or 40-year-old virgin type. They send sexting type messages and hope get some in return. Or porn / virus’ sort of irony with that one. I will also list catfish under here.

#3 THE COLLECTOR – a person who like “the fake” wants pictures or merely wants to serial date. Or wants to just chat to as many people as possible with no intention of ever meeting.

#4 TOO NICE/PUSHOVER – You’ve met these people in real life. Some are the 40-year-old virgin. They lack confidence and truly try to fit what you want, instead of what they are looking for.

#5 ANGRY GUY – this one gets their own category for me. About 25% of the people on these sites are jaded. They send angry and hateful messages to you even if you have never sent a single message to them.

#6 NORMAL / SEMI-NORMAL—this is a two-fer. I say this because some appear normal until you meet them. You can hide a lot behind a: computer, text, and phone.

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Personally…

So, who am I? I was a love at first site “naive” type – married and faithful to the wrong person for far too long. That being said, I have two beautiful children, and I’m a stronger person for everything I’ve been through. Again, I know who I am.

That is the first issue I am noticing on the site. People are lost or not portraying themselves for who they are. I am honest and sure have faults, but no one needs to have that smack them in the face. But I also  read profiles and can normally spot incompatibility or things I can overlook. We all have our “things”. Things that drive us nuts or were a sticking point in a prior relationship.

Something needs to be said for the people that can carry a conversation. I text in shorthand, but I get annoyed at people that cannot talk to me like a real person. And when they are half talking or clearly talking to far too many people at once - I just sign off. I think I am pretty interesting.

I know about a TV show on MTV called "Catfish". I have never seen. So many people talk about it actually happening on the sites. The people on the website try to force you right off the bat to prove you are real. It’s almost laughable if not annoying. I have found a couple fake accounts myself. A cute guy, I message them and immediately I got a porn link. I assume a fake account. (Shrugs) Whatever, I guess I have thicker skin. Being on Twitter I have had so many weirdos and whatnot. Not much gets to me. I also don’t understand the point of it, but I am noticing a trend lately where I don’t get things.

I watched a documentary awhile ago that stated mates are attracted to a person that looks similar to them. Their facial structure specifically. I found it interesting. I tried to locate the documentary; however I couldn’t find it online.

I can understand the concept on some level—to carry on strong genes. My heritage is Swedish and the genes are strong. It’s yet another unconscious natural selection type thing. Of course there are outliers to this, but we are seeking a mate that matches us in so many other ways, why not their appearance.

In Short:

  • Be Yourself /Know who you are
  • Focus on the 3 D’s, not wealth and beauty
  • Communicate clearly
  • Be positive and don’t let the bad accounts get under your skin

Next up in the blog series, setting up profiles…(you might cry you will be laughing so hard)

Links I would recommend:


http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/07/when-men-stop-seeking-beauty-and-women-care-less-about-wealth/

http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/dating-site-matches-face-mates-find-love-alike/story?id=13206411

http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/relationships/why-do-good-people-cheat/#.VKifMHtH2DM

  

Some Dating Site links:

OK CUPID:
www.okcupid.com/home


Plenty of FISH (POF):
http://www.pof.com/


Zoosk:
www.zoosk.com


Match.com (join for free):
www.match.com


E-harmony(5 days free): 
http://www.eharmony.com/

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#SatSpanks Saving Lady J #excerpt #flogging

11/7/2014

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This is a book that has been in progress for awhile now. Saving Lady J is about a masochistic Switch. I want to put the finishing touches on it. Here is a scene with Jamie and her Dom Chris.
Our first real session was one I’d remember well. He wanted to test out a new toy on me, a flogger that had many chain-links of metal instead of leather. I was physically shaking as I knelt down for him. He was intimidating on his own, but wielding a medieval looking weapon I nearly fainted as it crashed down on my back and ass.

“Sir!” I gasped, as the breath coated the thin air that escaped my lungs. My fingers attempted to claw at the hardwood floor, but not gaining any purchase.

“Yes, little one.” His gravelly voice hinted at his arousal, as his weapon of torture met my skin again.
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Grave Hauntings: Where Sexy and Sinful Meets Dark and Chilling #free everywhere

11/4/2014

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Just in time to send a shudder up your spine, Grave Hauntings has a mixture of scary, sexy, and downright sizzlingly HOT short stories. The talented authors in this group worked excruciatingly hard to make your evenings seem a touch creepier and the corners feel a bit darker. There’s something for everyone. From vampires and wolves, to ghosts and zombies, to death dealers – well, as far as those are concerned, you might find a friend to hide behind.

This may be a season of fun and excitement for the children as they imbibe too much sugar, but we feel the adults need a Halloween jolt as well. Come celebrate the true Halloween spirit with us.
Grave Hauntings Links

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ONILVOO?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393177&creativeASIN=B00ONILVOO&linkCode=shr&tag=suzya-20&linkId=HT42QODH5W66GXUR&qid=1413757873&sr=8-7&keywords=suzy+ayers


Smashwords

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/484205


Barnes and Noble

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/grave-hauntings-suzy-ayers/1120557834?ean=2940046229301

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Blood Moon Today! Oct 8th #ELEMENTS #excerpt

10/8/2014

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Sara has been living in the Thomas’ world and is now married to him and a Princess. One of his brothers, Damien, has become close to Sara and she trusts him more than anyone else at this point in the story—even more than her own husband. Thomas has three  brothers and there is a lust spell cast on her. Lucinda the Queen is one of her enemies…a very powerful one.


‘I’m sorry Sara. I’ve failed you,’ Damien’s voice was weakening.
“I will do it if you don’t kill: Damien, Samuel, Thomas, Sienna, James or Ella,” [Sara] said making a bold, brave move. She was scared to admit her pregnancy, but only a big thing could change this.
“Ella?” Lucinda walked over to her. She flipped her wrist at the Sorcerer to release her.
Sara thought it was Argon that was holding her.
“Is she?” she asked the Sorcerer. “Are you?” She glared at Sara. “How did I not know?” she growled and looked at Damien.
“I cast a protection spell as soon as I found out,” he squeaked out.
Sara gasped and whipped her head to look at him.
“Well, well, well.” Lucinda smiled. “You didn’t even tell the mother? No doubt Thomas would’ve said no. If he was bound how could he have?” she grumbled again.
“I told him I was pregnant, well indirectly, the day I went to get the paper signed,” Sara explained. “He said I kept touching my stomach. So I was cautious not to do that. Please release Damien, he was only trying to protect her, me. Aren’t we valuable assets?” Lucinda looked at Sara hard and waved the Sorcerer off.
Sara ran to him choking on the floor.
He slipped the book into her hands. It remained cloaked.
‘Sam, do you love me?’ She didn’t look at him behind her.
‘Sara, how is this possible?’ Samuel asked.
‘Just take a step back when I stand.’ She told him. ‘Damien, don’t move.’ She set the book back into his hands.
‘But?’ Damien went to protest.
“You alright?” she asked, hugging Damien during the exchange and she felt Sam’s anger. ‘Steady Sam,’ she warned.
She stood, but as she did, Sam bound her hands. Sara looked at him. Betrayal stabbed deeply in her soul. A tear ran down her cheek. All she wanted was for this terrible dream to be over. A dream! Could this be a dream? She closed her eyes.
‘Sam, you’ve betrayed me and my children; if I die because you chose the wrong side who is going to raise them. They’ve poisoned Thomas. I can’t even look at you.’ She kept them closed.
Her anger began to grow. Heat built within her core, as she heard James’ cries, as she thought about Thomas’ unconscious body, her sister—her last family from The Before World in peril as well. All because of her tattoo, because of her powers. Her fists clenched hard behind her and her eyes squeezed tighter. Her stomach churned in tormented pain and anger.
‘Sara!’ Damien’s voice came into her head. ‘Sara, what are you doing?’
Sara heard a gasp.
Ageatha screamed, “Oh my God! Look at the moon it’s turning blood red! Is she doing that Argon?”
‘Notice who she called for, Sam, not you, she doesn’t love you. She was using you.” Sara’s words were like vipers stinging him hard. And as she opened her eyes even Lucinda looked frightened and stumbled back, away from Sara.

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ELEMENTS Re-release #fantasy #romance Amazon Bestseller's now in #paperback! and #freebie

10/7/2014

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Finally, you can buy both book 1 and book 2 in my fantasy romance series, ELEMENTS, in paperback. I am so excited. I re-edited these books at 87k words each.

I have attached all links including the ebook links as well if you prefer to read your books on an E-Reader.

Thanks for stopping by!

Suxy
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Princess Sara Rosen must learn her role as Thomas’ wife and juggle being a new mother. Happy to be where she thinks she’s meant to be, believing she’s completed her destiny. However her fate and her dark dreams have barely begun.

Her powers have grown exponentially; as she uncovers a frightful new burden she must bear. Additionally, she questions Thomas’ fidelity and her own. Trusting no one and not even herself at times, she must protect a new secret and her family.

Continue on the journey with Sara and the Rosen family in this: sci-fi, futuristic, romantic fantasy… in the name of love, loss, and magic.

This book includes: Shapeshifters, visions, premonitions, magic, spells, poisons, Sorcerer’s, a Wizard, Witches, death, sexual situations, and is considered to be a book for adults 18+. This book contains 86,000 words.


US: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00D0LUO7U?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393177&creativeASIN=B00D0LUO7U&linkCode=shr&tag=suzya-20&=books&qid=1372346947&sr=1-3&keywords=suzy+ayers

UK: http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00D0LUO7U/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_rwJOrb0GQC78W

CA: http://www.amazon.ca/dp/B00D0LUO7U/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_4M.Ttb1C5ADWM/186-5458855-6473457

Createspace:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1494239817?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393177&creativeASIN=1494239817&linkCode=shr&tag=suzya-20&qid=1388804102&sr=8-5&keywords=suzy+ayers

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Miranda’s Amulet Book Description:
Princess Sara Rosen must learn her role as Thomas’ wife and juggle being a new mother. Happy to be where she thinks she’s meant to be, believing she’s completed her destiny. However her fate and her dark dreams have barely begun.
Her powers have grown exponentially; as she uncovers a frightful new burden she must bear. Additionally, she questions Thomas’ fidelity and her own. Trusting no one and not even herself at times, she must protect a new secret and her family.

Continue on the journey with Sara and the Rosen family in this: sci-fi, futuristic, romantic fantasy… in the name of love, loss, and magic.

This book includes: Shapeshifters, visions, premonitions, magic, spells, poisons, Sorcerer’s, a Wizard, Witches, death, sexual situations, and is considered to be a book for adults 18+. This book contains 86,000 words.


Sexy Holiday Bites is where you will first learn about Damien, Sara, and Thomas. It’s a free book of flash fiction that features voyeurism and (gasp) sex. Grab it and enjoy all the stories from these hot authors year round.


About the author and writing this series:
Suzy Ayers writes across many genres and this is the second book in The Before World Series. She attempts to write characters with depth, many times with pain and heartache. The ELEMENTS – The Before World Series has already been written and she is working on producing the next book “The Sixth Element”.
She writes in a fashion where it may seem archaic (gasp), she writes everything by hand and has many notebooks. She never plans a story and yet somehow it unfolds: the plots, the characters and the happily ever after endings. She is a true romantic at heart so despite the pain and heartbreak through the series know that there is happiness for Sara.
Suzy has also written a plethora of other books and short stories this year. If you enjoy Erotic fiction or Contemporary Romance with some heat please click the author links below.
Buy Links for Sara’s Awakening

AMAZON  | B&N | SMASHWORDS
CREATESPACE


Buy Links for Miranda’s Amulet

AMAZON | AMAZON UK | B&N | SMASHWORDS
CREATESPACE

Anyone ever get caught watching?? I wrote this little short titled "Caught in the Act" Where our innocent Sara, from my ELEMENTS series, watches her boyfriends brother...well let's just say he isn't just kissing someone...lol You can check it out yourself! It's a ‪‎freebie‬! And don't forget to check out all the other authors and leave a raving review too!

SEXY HOLIDAY BITES --FREE!!


AMAZON | SMASH
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Signed paperback up for grabs at my #event! #fantasy #romance

10/2/2014

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Click here for my FACEBOOK EVENT!

There are other authors participating in take overs. Gift cards, ebooks, and free books...plus I will be giving away a newly re-edited book. My Sara's Awakening which is my fantasy romance series. It is 282 pages of magic and deception...and it is only the first of 4 book in the ELEMENTS series. It is an $11.81 value.

I will be giving it away in a game to a very lucky winner. So come, participate and invite friends.


Book Description:
Apocalyptic storms have reshaped the Earth, forcing people to seek refuge from the newly imposed monarchy run by The Rosen Family. After a chance meeting with the Prince, Sara is forced to live separated from her family, inside the castle with The Rosen Family. Armed with powers she does not know she possesses, and bearing a mystical tattoo on her shoulder, Sara learns her dark dreams are hauntingly real premonitions.
Determined to figure out what is true, what is real, and if magic exists again, she must navigate through the lies and deception, while she explores the question of love. Could her first love be her true love? Or will his Jekyll and Hyde personality push her away? Join the 19-year-old Sara in this sci-fi, futuristic, romantic fantasy… in the name of love, loss, and magic.
EBook links – Sara’s Awakening (Book 1)
$2.99

Amazon
US | UK (paperback only) | CA | AU

Smashwords | B&N

In case you just you like it in digital.
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