Kayla, well honestly, hmm, how did I meet her? Let’s see two separate men introduced me. One mentioned her boob displays, smiles. The other wanted to get my opinion on a book of hers.
The first you might think—oogling but more appreciation quite frankly. I don’t really associate with juveniles. And body appreciation is something Kayla and I have discussed via open forum many times. I have commented on her blog a few times about this subject. The objectification of women in the media and how “we” women internalize that, and have to unlearn all that negativity of perfection.
So the book I read was The Big Game, which is a fantasy of the main character being used by four male Dominants. The question was posed to me what I thought, by my male Dominant friend. Asking if it was harsh for a female to writ in such fashion. Without divulging too much about myself (blushes) I have to say I enjoyed it for the most part, however I did contact Kayla about it and that is where our friendship started. I offered to edit it for her. Hahaha. Anal, control freak that I am…but in the nicest way. I like to offer help to those that I see have talent. And let me point out the latter man (the boob appreciator) said that women don't write explicitly and other women don't like it. Guess we are a couple of boundary pusher/breakers Kayla.
Kayla admitted that The Big Game was one of her first attempts at writing and was currently working on a new book…the one that I will be promoting today, The Adventures of Sir and Babygirl.
Kayla Lords: That's a harder question than you might imagine. I'm a sex blogger who talks about masturbation and my BDSM relationship five to six days a week. Is there any mystery left? LOL. Ok, so let's see...my father died when I was 22, just weeks before I graduated college and got married (to my now ex-husband). One of the last things he told me was to keep working towards my goals. He knew he was dying, but I didn't – I thought he was worried he wouldn't be able to attend graduation and the wedding. (Denial is pretty powerful.) Three days before my wedding, I questioned whether I should get married at all. And I remembered what my father told me. I got married because I thought my father wanted me to – temporarily forgetting that my father detested him. Nine years later, I divorced my husband and became a sex-blogging, erotic-writing, lover of the BDSM lifestyle. Life is strange.
Suzy Ayers: A milestone or goal you hope to accomplish this year.
Kayla Lords: This year, I hope to devote more time to my writing. In 2013, when I first started publishing my writing, I could only manage a few hours of writing on the weekends. Now, I'm working from home and am mindfully and purposefully scheduling a couple of hours a day for writing. I want to publish another volume of adventures for Johnathan and Katie (The Adventures of Sir and Babygirl) in 2014 – hopefully before the end of summer.
Suzy Ayers: Who is a mentor or someone that you look up to/inspires you?
This is going to sound awful, but I'm one of those lone wolf kind of people. I don't seek out other people – I'm a total introvert who would probably be a hermit if not for my two children. I don't have a mentor or anyone that I look up to. That being said, I'm inspired by all writers – the great ones that get major publishing agreements and the not-so-great ones who love writing so much that they don't care what other people think. I'm pretty partial to independently published authors since I am one. Not for nothin', but it takes a pretty stiff backbone to believe enough in your story to write it, get it edited, figure out the cover art, and then market the hell out of it without any type of support other than an indulgent family or significant other.
xxxkisses and hugs to that girl!
Suzy Ayers: What is the biggest piece of advice you find that you give most often to aspiring writers?
Kayla Lords: We're all told to “just write” so I don't give that advice. Most of the advice I give centers around marketing since that's what I do for a day job. And the biggest piece of advice is twofold: 1) You don't have to be everywhere, and you can't unless you have a team of 10 working for you. As authors, we want to get our book in front of people, and most people think that means you have to sign up for every single website known to man. Wrong. Join a few (three tops), get good at them, build an audience, and then consider adding another. Or don't – if your audience is strong enough, and you're selling books, there's no need to kill yourself to build a new audience from scratch somewhere else. 2) Don't just sell to people. Whether it's Facebook or Twitter or wherever, people don't want to be sold to. Yes, you should post your purchase links, your cover art, an excerpt, whatever. But that's not all you should post. Authors should share other content that they come across. Support fellow authors. Recommend good books (other than your own). Talk about things that matter to you. Social media sites are...well...social. People want to interact with their friends and the people they follow. They want to know there's a real person on the other end. You'll be tuned out if all you do is sell, sell, sell.
Kayla Lords: The Adventures of Sir and Babygirl is the story of Johnathan, a Dominant and Katie, a submissive. Katie has been recovering from a broken heart for too long, and Johnathan falls hard for her. This first book focuses on how they meet. When I first started working on this book, I wanted each chapter to work as a standalone story – an adventure, if you will. But I got so carried away telling their story that until the last couple of chapters (when it gets really hot), it's best to read each story back-to-back. Oh, and I've got an excerpt for you!
Now that Olivia was settled safely in bed and the kitchen cleaned, thanks to Johnathan’s help, Katie wondered what could possibly happen next in this crazy day. She felt Johnathan’s hands in her hair and closed her eyes. Purring like a cat, Katie melted into his arms.
Johnathan smiled as he felt the tension drain away from Katie. Winding his fingers through her hair, he gripped the strands tight and pulled hard. Katie’s eyes flew open as she whimpered and squirmed. Holding firm, Johnathan leaned forward and kissed her lips softly. Katie’s mouth opened slightly, her tongue darting out to taste his lips.
Johnathan growled as he felt Katie’s soft, pink tongue on his skin. He opened his mouth, deepening their kiss, wanting to consume her completely. His tongue lapped against Katie’s. His teeth nibbled her lips, sinking in. He loved hearing her moans of pleasure and pain. Finally, Johnathan pulled away, releasing her mouth, his hand still holding her hair.
“Look at me, Katie-girl,” ordered Johnathan. “Look at me, and hear my words.” When he was sure he had her complete attention, he continued. “I care for you more than I thought possible. I want you to be a part of my life. I want Olivia to be a part of my life. You make me happier than I’ve been in a long time. You are an amazing woman and mother.”
Katie’s eyes filled with tears. She tried to look away but Johnathan stopped her with a firm pull on her hair.
“Look at me, girl!” Johnathan’s voice took on a feral tone. “I want you as a woman and as a submissive. I will not deny my nature much longer. I also won’t force you to accept something you don’t want. But I think you want this as much as I do. If you do, tell me. We’ll go slow, but just fucking tell me.”
Johnathan pulled Katie close again, molding her body to his, releasing her hair and wrapping his arms around her body. He nuzzled her neck, breathing in her scent. He loved the smell of her hair – rosemary and mint. The smell of her skin, a warm, earthy scent, made him rock hard. Katie slowly wound her arms around Johnathan, pulling him close. She trembled in his arms.
Kayla Lords: I've got several projects in mind. As I mentioned earlier, I started work a few months ago on the next set of adventures for Johnathan and Katie. Last year, I started a nonfiction book about being a submissive. I will definitely finish that as soon as I can. I've got a couple of book ideas rattling around in my head. One will be menage and gay erotica – if I can get past the sex scenes in my head and figure out the plotline, LOL. The other is based on a historical figure from WWII that I read about one day. Apparently, in the midst of a war using heavy artillery and bombs, he went to every battle with a broadsword and wearing a kilt (and he survived!). I've decided he's a Dominant – and I'm going to tell his (mostly fictitious) story as soon as I can.
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I discovered my love of writing at age seven and my sexual fantasies long before I reached adulthood. Now instead of experiencing sexual daydreams, I write them down and publish them for others to enjoy.
I write BDSM-themed erotica with a focus on dominance and submission (D/s). I not only want to turn my readers on, but I want them to realize that D/s is more than just a kink and isn't scary or degrading.
An avid blogger, tweeter, and talker, I love interacting with my readers as much as possible!